
The Axiom Of Realistic Expectations
Individuals Demonstrate Valid Behavior
By Having Realistic Expectations
For Themselves, Their Lives, And Others
Frequently, when society learns of brutal violence and crime, such as the Columbine High School Massacre, there is considerable outcry for the creation of new laws to stop tragedies like these from happening again. This reaction is completely understandable because it is quite unsettling to accept that there are individuals out there who would and do actually commit such atrocities, and we want to make sure that no one else ever does anything so horrible.
We reach the conclusion that with more laws, crime will be prevented. Unfortunately, most of the time, there are already sufficient laws in place outlawing these disturbing criminal acts, which are committed in spite of the law. Therefore, instead of creating new laws, what our society must do in order to prevent these ghastly crimes is institute harsher punishments, specifically capital punishment, more often.
We need to face the fact that there are some crimes so egregious, so ruthless, that their perpetrators do not deserve the opportunity for rehabilitation, starting with those found guilty of sexual assault.
Currently flooding the news is the case of Phillip Garrido: “Phillip Garrido and his wife, Nancy, will face 29 felony counts after being accused of kidnapping Jaycee Lee Dugard when she was 11 and keeping her in their backyard since 1991.” (“Couple Faces 29 Felony Counts, Life In Jail In Kidnapping“) Their charges include “kidnapping someone under 14 years of age, kidnapping for sexual purposes, forcible rape and forcible lewd acts on a child. The maximum penalty for both defendants would be life imprisonment.”
What makes this case so horrendous is that Phillip Garrido had already been convicted for kidnapping and raping Katie Calloway Hall in November of 1976, “but was released after serving just over 10 years of a 50-year sentence. He was labeled a sex offender and put on lifetime parole.” (“Garrido Victim: ‘He Had Me For 8 Hours. He Had Her For 18 Years’“)
Sadly, Hall’s terror lasted a lot longer than the 10 years of Garrido’s incarceration:
“For years, I walked around like a zombie,” she said. “I had to tell everyone I met what had happened to me — because I didn’t feel like myself. It was as if I had to explain why I wasn’t ‘normal.’” For her, that’s the biggest pain Garrido put her through. “I was a good person. I lived right, and treated others well,” she said. “He changed my life in an instant. I don’t feel like I can ever be that person again. Being victimized is something that only a victim can understand. I hate that he did this to me, and I doubt I’ll ever get over it.”
Why does our society give sex offenders a second chance? How many times does an innocent victim have to die or suffer through years of captivity before we start saying enough is enough? Haven’t we learned our lesson by now?
- Jessica Lundsford’s murderer, John Evander Couey, was a registered sex offender before he kidnapped her from her bed, raped and held her for three days, and buried her alive.
- Dru Sjodin’s murderer, Alfonso Rodriguez, Jr., was a registered sex offender before he kidnapped her, raped her, stabbed her, and left her dead, face down in a ravine.
- Elizabeth Smart’s abductor, Brian David Mitchell, was “found guilty of exposing himself to a child” at 16 and later accused by his second wife of sexually assaulting her daughter and their 3-year-old son before he kidnapped Elizabeth, raping and holding her for nine months. (About.com: “Brian David Mitchell“)
- Dylan Groene’s murderer and Shasta Groene’s abductor, Joseph Edward Duncan III, was sent to a juvenile home as a teenager for “[raping] a 9-year-old boy at gunpoint,” where he told his therapist “he estimated that he had raped 13 younger boys by the time he was 16.” (Wikipedia: “Joseph E. Duncan III“) He continued to be in and out of jail before he beat Shasta and Dylan’s mother, older brother, and mother’s fiancé to death with a hammer, kidnapped the children, raped and held them for six weeks, and killed Dylan.
The list goes on and on.
America, the price our nation is paying is much too high to give perpetrators of sexual assault a second chance. They should be put to death after their first conviction, not let out on parole, not given the opportunity to ruin more people’s lives.
You can now post comments on The Magna Sententia Official Site, and we would truly appreciate hearing your position on this subject. Please give your reasons why you agree or disagree so that as a society, we can begin an open dialogue about this issue and put a stop to such senseless violence.
Anna and Ellie Sherise
Creators of Magna Sententia
Authors of Magna Sententia: The Logical Cure for Our Society
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Handling Life’s Stickiest Situations Is Much Easier When You Have A Plan
November 11, 2008The Axiom Of Realistic Expectations
Individuals Demonstrate Valid Behavior
By Having Realistic Expectations
For Themselves, Their Lives, And Others
It is commendable that Oprah has an “ethics dream team” to help teach her audience how to handle complicated social situations, but given the differing opinions of her experts Faith Salie and Randy Cohen, we believe Oprah’s viewers would receive a much greater benefit if they learned to follow Magna Sententia when responding to “life’s stickiest situations.” (“How To Handle Life’s Stickiest Situations“)
Magna Sententia is based on a system of logic and founded on the values of responsibility, respect, and realistic expectations. This makes your decision-making process smoother and important life judgments much easier to reach because when you weigh all of your decisions against a set of core values, you know that your decisions are consistent and have clear reasoning behind them and that the way you are running your life is rooted in principles that make the world a better place.
Let’s add Magna Sententia to the mix of Salie’s and Cohen’s opinions and see what you think:
Should Mary have told her friends that their spouses/significant others propositioned her? Magna Sententia’s Axiom of Respect includes three concepts: treating yourself respectfully, treating others respectfully, and respecting only those who earn it. In Mary’s case, she must focus on treating herself respectfully. When her friend’s spouse or significant other crossed the line and propositioned her, he treated her disrespectfully, putting her in a very uncomfortable position. Pretending that it didn’t happen, ignoring him, or avoiding him in the future are all extremely weak responses that will only make her feel badly about the situation and herself.
On the other hand, if she tells her friends about the inappropriate propositions, she can feel good knowing she is a person who is honest and straightforward in her friendships. (Note: this answer assumes her friends are really friends, not acquaintances.) Her being a true friend is more important than whether or not her friends want to know about their partners’ behavior. If her friends dislike her or treat her poorly because she “force[s] them to confront something formally” about their partners that they’ve already suspected, then they are not good friends. Treating yourself respectfully means forming genuine friendships that are based on honesty, trust, and open communication.
Should Michelle call the “12-year-old girl’s mother and let her know what’s going on”? Magna Sententia’s Axiom of Responsibility insists that you take responsibility for your children. Therefore, you are not responsible for other people’s children, and Michelle is not responsible for the 12-year-old girl. It is imperative for her to understand that her obligation is solely to her son:
If she were to call the girl’s mother, a myriad of difficulties could (and probably would) occur in her son’s life. Children, and parents who protect them no matter what they do, can be extremely cruel, and Michelle’s son could suffer mercilessly at the hands of the girl’s mother and “friends.” Furthermore, if she calls and her son faces backlash, he may never confide in her in the future. Michelle should take responsibility for her son by teaching him to protect himself and the importance of choosing his friends and girlfriends wisely, as well as working to maintain a close relationship with him. As he grows up, he will need to know how to handle this type of situation on his own, without direct parental involvement.
How does McAulay “put [her customers] in their place and still not lose them as clients”? Magna Sententia’s Axiom of Realistic Expectations teaches that we must have an accurate outlook on the consequences of our actions. Since McAulay is responsible for her own actions and not responsible for the behavior of her clients, it is not her job to try to “put them in their place.”
In fact, confronting them will most likely only hurt her business for nothing, as she will probably lose them as clients and anything she says will have no effect on whether or not they continue to make sexist comments. Realistic Expectation Six states, “Never ask the moon to brighten your day,” meaning McAulay should not expect her clients to be something they are not (polite), and she must realize that it is up to them, and only them, to change their behavior. Moreover, if she is extremely uncomfortable day in and day out working with the customers in her current field, she may be well-served to find a different line of work with more polite and respectful clients.
How does Kristen recover from her e-mail mishaps, namely “accidentally replying to the person [she's] gossiping about in the e-mail” and sending a “company proposal directly to [her] competitors”? This is another instance in which the Axiom of Respect directly applies. Treating others respectfully definitely does not include gossiping about them, whether or not they find out about it.
Kristen doesn’t just need to stop gossiping in e-mails, she needs to stop gossiping period. Gossiping is not only treating others disrespectfully, it is destructive and mean. As far as sending valuable information to her company’s competitors, she needs to slow down and concentrate so that she treats her employer respectfully in her work.
Should Patti tell her girlfriends the truth when they ask her opinion about their “bad boy” boyfriends? Should Lindsey tell her friend that she has bad breath? And should Sarah tell her friend “she’s wearing clothes that are completely inappropriate for her size”? All three of these ladies are in basically the same position as Mary. (Note: this answer also assumes their friends are really friends, not acquaintances.) In order to treat themselves respectfully, their friendships must be based on honesty and trust. As long as they are delicate and discrete in expressing their opinions, their girlfriends should understand that their thoughts are well-intentioned. Who else can be honest about these things, if not your girlfriends?
Life and the decisions it requires are much easier when you have a bottom line that makes sense and allows you to feel good about yourself. You can have confidence in core values, and as Rev. Dr. Peter Marshall (1902-1949) said, “Give to us clear vision that we may know where to stand and what to stand for – because unless we stand for something, we shall fall for anything.” Magna Sententia provides you with clarity and something to stand for: The Axioms of Responsibility, Respect, and Realistic Expectations.
Anna and Ellie Sherise
Creators of Magna Sententia
Authors of Magna Sententia: The Logical Cure for Our Society
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